As far as I can remember, this summer has been one of the more hectic ones.
Between the 14 + houseguests (some were "checking out" as others were "checking in"), traveling and several unexpected work related projects, I took a leave of absence from my blog.
In addition to that I also said no to a couple of projects, and more recently (yesterday as a matter of fact), I threw in the towel on a personal project that I had been working on for a couple of weeks.
None of these decisions came easy and some required extensive phone sessions with my friend Robin Davis. We are always able to talk each other down from the ledge.
I am not one to give up on something. I'm that person who sits all the way through a horrible movie and reads a book to the end even if it is boring me to tears.
For me, giving up or turning work down comes with a lot of guilt and feelings of failure, but sometimes you just have to do it. And you know what? After you make that decision, it feels pretty good.
What I learned from all of this is this:
When I took the summer off from my blog the world didn't end and there were no people screaming in the streets in fits of hysteria. I doubt that anyone even noticed.
When I turned down work and worried that I was losing out on the income, something else more lucrative and creative came along.
When I pulled the plug on that personal project that I had been struggling with for a couple of weeks, it felt like the weight of the world had been lifted from my shoulders. I also figured out what it is that I would rather be working on.
In short, I had to give myself a permission slip for each of these decisions. One to take time off and enjoy my summer, another to turn down work that just didn't "feel right" and one more to abandon a project that I had a good deal of time invested in.
Is it hard for you to give yourself permission to say no? Feel free to share your story in the comments.
Thanks for reading!